Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573, Northern Maine Real Estate-Aroostook County Broker (MOOERS REALTY)

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Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

I am reminded of the senseless pain that we inflict on each other and when it comes to power, fame and wealth, what is in a person, like who they really are is revealed. Squabbling over money brings out the insides. Often, people's traumatic past (s) enter into their present moment disrupting and offsetting what is profitable & abundant. Resentment is the culprit. Poverty of spirit will always rob, destroy and interfere with all good. Regarding wealth, inheritance etc., I am giving to my children their portion now so I can see them enjoy it and they see me seeing them doing so. On the way, I include random people here and there as well. Naked I come, naked I go

Sep 06, 2022 06:13 AM
Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

I serve one master. One. Who is the decision maker? That is the only person I ever want to talk to. I don't want to hear about it, figure it out, tell me your decision. Been there done that not going to do it again!

Sep 06, 2022 05:49 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate

I am blessed to work with so many wonderful estate representatives. I have declined to work with those who are the appointed ones yet included other family members in the decision-making process. The same applies to co-trustees and co-executors. The only exception is if they agree on who will be working with me on the sale of real estate. 

Sep 06, 2022 08:01 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

We recently updated our wills and make an effort to eliminate any disputes. We have a provision that excludes any beneficiary that legally disputes our wills. We have been advised that personal property can cause more disputes than the real estate.


Sep 06, 2022 07:18 AM
Carla Freund
Keller Williams Preferred Realty - Raleigh, NC
Carolina Life RealEstate & Relocation 919-602-8489

Lots of questions here Andrew.

1) When working with heirs, I try to keep it about selling the house and honoring the person who lived there. I try to keep the emotions out of it if possible. Once the house closes, the money usually goes to an estate. I don't get involved in who gets what. Thus far, I've not had an issue.

2) My husband & I have each lost a parent and the sibling got along fine. Of course, we didn't have a lot to inherit. Other relatives outside of my siblings has some issues but thats another story for another day. In my opinion, if you get anything it's a blessing so be grateful. 

3) Yes our kids know what to expect. We hope we can take care of ourselves in our old age and not have to rely on our children.

4) No, we probably won't be leaving anything to charity. We give plenty now. If there's anything left, I'm certain we'll leave it to our children and grandchildren.

Sep 06, 2022 06:37 AM
Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
Real Estate Broker Retired

Didn't watch the video but I agree with Candice. Pick ONE person that I will speak with for updates, etc. 

Sep 06, 2022 06:02 AM
Pete Xavier
Investments to Luxury - Pacific Palisades, CA
Outstanding Agent Referrals-Nationwide

I agree with the video.


A heir with a "producer mindset" is the best type of heir!


AND whatever one can do to promote that type of mindset to potential heirs is of utmost importance over whatever wealth is passed on. IMO

Sep 06, 2022 05:35 AM
Don Baker
Lane Realty - Eatonton, GA
Lake Sinclair Specialist

I don't bickering.  Nope, someone else can deal with it.

Sep 06, 2022 11:40 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

I think the worst transaction years ago was with a property where the parent passed, and all the siblings fought and fought.  

Sep 06, 2022 09:29 AM
Tony Lewis
Summit Real Estate Group - Valencia, CA
Summit Real Estate Group Valencia & Aliso Viejo

I treat probate sales in much the same manner as working with a divorce situation.  I figure out who is the decision maker or most dominate person and make sure they are appeased.  I deal with each person or all parties as an individual and create a personal contact and let them know that I'm on their side.  It is sometimes like being a Lion Trainer.

Sep 06, 2022 08:12 AM
Eileen Burns
Trans State Commercial RE Ft. Lauderdale/Miami/Palm Beach - Fort Lauderdale, FL
FLorida Real Estate Connector

I learned to listen only to the authorize person to sign on behalf of the estate.

I look at my will once a year when filing taxes to see what has changed in my life over the last 365 days and take note and/or action if necessary.

Extended family members stop talking to you when you honor someone wishes to the tee.  Family think they know what the deceased person had in mind yet that are not privy to the will unless it is recorded in county records.


Sep 07, 2022 07:12 AM
Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, KW Diversified - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

We deal with a lot of estates, most work remarkably smoothly.

As far as my estate, it could be a mess, hopefully the kids will figure it out without any problems.

Sep 07, 2022 12:04 AM