Victoria's Blog

According to one psychologist we should stop being 'too nice' at work. Really? Is there such a thing as being too nice in our work environments? Apparently this phenomenon exists and we can combat this!The psychologist offers several examples of what ‘successful’ people do to be more genuine and ...

A recent article suggests that the "all or nothing" mentality can ruin our mental health and hold us back from accomplishments. Experts explain why.We’re told that messages like “Go big or go home,” “Anything worth doing is worth doing right,” and even, “Do or do not. There is no try,” are meant ...

A recent article referenced “micro-habits” a term I hadn’t heard before.  So of course I had to read beyond the headline.The article notes that If we’re like most people, we’ve probably tried to follow a new big habit just to find ourselves faltering a few days later. For example, we may have mad...

This recently published commentary is quite interesting , but probably does require that we buy into the main premise which is the title of the article.The author suggests that If the title of this article caught our eyes, that's a good start—it might even help us reflect on where our eyes typica...

Do you experience "cringe attacks'? My answer to this question posed in a recent article is definitely and emphatically “yes”!The author notes that if we’re a human living on this planet, we’ve likely experienced a full-body shiver when remembering an embarrassing thing we did. We’ve probably eve...

We’ve all heard about SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) and some of us may truly suffer when the natural light gives way to darkness at certain times of the year. A recent article dealt with a particular “annoyance” that we may experience specifically when we leave our offices/studios/places of e...

People-pleasing behaviors aren't necessarily helpful — for us or for the other person, according to a recent article.People-PleasingWe’re asked whether we feel anxious at the idea of making someone unhappy by not doing what they want? Maybe we push your preferences to the side and say “yes” to ev...

And we've probably said it multiple times today.According to therapists, "shoulding" ourselves — or saying that we should do this and should do that — can lead to guilt and shame. If we’ve ever uttered sentences like “I should really spend some time cleaning,” “I should just get over this already...

According to a recent report, while we may strive to be kind and compassionate in our communications with people, we’re bound to fall short sometimes. And one of the ways we do that in conversation is when we condescend, or talk down, to the other person.We’re being condescending when we speak to...

A recent article says there's a reason we dread looking at our Google calendars and other planners.Feeling too busy, or like we don't have time to do what we want, can lead to "time famine," according to Yale University psychology professor Laurie Santos. Time famine can lead to poorer work perfo...