Annette  Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041, Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ  (ReMax Realtec Group)

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Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

The easiest way is to just not have a problem with people. I mean, what's the freaking point.

If we can't empathize and understand that we may not agree but we also can't likely comprehend where they've been, then the problem is with us.

Come from love, use some humor and let It the F go

Jan 18, 2018 07:10 AM
Rainmaker
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Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of the Manchester NH's area Leading Agents

There is not anything here that would get me that heated. If i see a mistake, then i may email private if i know them. Otherwise if it did not affect me, i may stay out of it. 

Jan 18, 2018 07:10 AM
Rainmaker
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Nina Hollander
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor

I just ignore at the end of the day. All this toing and froing in AR does not put money in my pocket. It's the least important part of my daily activities.

Jan 18, 2018 07:22 AM
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

Honestly, I ask myself if it will matter to me in 5 years. If not, it would be a waste of valuable time to pursue a discussion. 

If the issue does hit me and it matters to me, it's a quick comment back or perhaps a short discussion. However, I would address the issue head-on.

No sense sugar-coating it with a compliment first - just approach it in a non-attacking manner and it's typically well-received. It all depends upon the open-mindedness of the parties involved.

Jan 18, 2018 09:24 AM
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Anthony Acosta - ALLATLANTACONDOS.COM
Harry Norman, REALTORS® - Atlanta, GA
Associate Broker

Move on and let it go, some individuals do not deserve your attention.

Jan 18, 2018 07:24 AM
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Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

In the case to which you refer, I ignored it because it had no place here.  If I do disagree with someone and feel compelled to respond I do it, as much as possible, with tact explaining my position and let it go at that.  I don't engage in the pi**ing matches that often results from the other party receiving an opposing opinion.

Jan 18, 2018 07:22 AM
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Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Just move on.

Jan 18, 2018 07:18 AM
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Peter Testa
Nationwide Homes - Danbury, CT
PETER TESTA

It's overly opinionated, borderline narcissistic people who have to debate everything. Then they'll demonize you when they started it. Keep it positive or STFU. 

Jan 18, 2018 11:56 AM
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Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

if I get zinged, I zing back.... then it's over... one good zing deserves another.... and then life goes on and it's forgotten.... until I get zinged again!

Jan 18, 2018 10:57 AM
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Lyn Sims
RE/MAX Suburban - Schaumburg, IL
Schaumburg Real Estate

I think that sometimes you will be disappointed at the shallow answers provided. To be honest, sometimes your questions hurt my head. I appreciate you wanting me to put on my thinking cap on but sometimes ... it's just better left in the trunk.

Jan 18, 2018 10:28 AM
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Fred Griffin Tallahassee Real Estate
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker

 Weltanschauung

Jan 18, 2018 07:04 AM
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Greg Large
ERA Real Solutions - Grove City, OH
A Tradition of Trust

 

wrong

Jan 18, 2018 12:27 PM
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Diana Dahlberg
1 Month Realty - Pleasant Prairie, WI
Real Estate in Kenosha, WI since 1994 262-308-3563

Let Go and Let God!

Jan 18, 2018 09:09 AM
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co. Notary Services, retired Realtor

What did I miss this time???? 

Jan 18, 2018 09:04 AM
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Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate

I do the best I can in responding with dignity and respect.  I will not get into a pi$$ing war with someone ... I just move on. 

Jan 18, 2018 08:54 AM
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Mary Yonkers
Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate - Erie, PA
Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor

Ditto, Scott Godzyk and Fred Griffin 

Jan 18, 2018 07:18 AM
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Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
Andover, MA: Andover Luxury Homes For Sale

Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041 - I like your idea.

Jan 18, 2018 09:07 PM
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Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, Keller Williams Fox Cities - Stevens Point, WI
Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671

Far too many let them have it, especially brutal to our poor blue faced friends.

Jan 18, 2018 08:18 AM
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Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
The House Kat

The only kind of "criticism" I would make would be about an idea or fact, never about a person. So my comment wouldn't be a "I've got a problem with you!" but more like "Hey, I disagree with that fact!"

So, based on your above example in #2, I might say, "Interesting! I would add that it's important for parties who are interested in investing in Bitcoin to understand the speculative nature of their purchase. They could lose their money." I wouldn't ask for feedback though. If someone has feedback, I'm sure they'll share.

Jan 18, 2018 08:09 AM
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Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

On Bitcoin I typically add it is my personal opinion. That opinion is I look at investments like Bitcoin or Gold as speculation. It's a bit like buying heavbily into a stock that Motley Fool says is going through the ceiling. I do my best not to think for other people.

Jan 18, 2018 07:38 AM
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Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Asking permission is the inviting way to give feedback & input go from there

Jan 18, 2018 07:21 AM
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Michael J. Perry
KW Elite - Lancaster, PA
Lancaster, PA Relo Specialist

Off line and hope for the best

Jan 18, 2018 07:20 AM
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Annette,

As we see it, they are not asking for my opinion.   Live and let live!  Many have asked us for feedback in our field of expertisee.  My answer is pretty standard and it is true for me.  I don't know their market, and what they are trying to achieve.  If they are happy with their results, who am I to dispute it?  Why would I rain on their parade?  A

Jan 18, 2018 08:48 PM
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Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

I strive to disagree without being disagreeable. When that does not work, I pity the poor fool, because they tripped my switch and I should act better!

Jan 18, 2018 08:14 PM
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Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets
Big Block Realty 858.232.8722 - La Jolla, CA
& Host of Postcards From Success Podcast

Can't stand the heat? Get out of this AR kitchen.

Jan 18, 2018 07:05 PM
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William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

Unless it happens a lot I just ignore it

Jan 18, 2018 06:57 PM
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Debbie Reynolds
Platinum Properties - Clarksville, TN
Your Dedicated Clarksville TN Real Estate Agent

I respect all points of view as long as they are presented in a non-degrading way. When the accusations start flying then the purpose is lost and I tune out totally.

Jan 18, 2018 05:11 PM
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Olga Simoncelli
Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate - New Fairfield, CT
CONSULTANT, Real Estate Services & Risk Management

Let it go because it probably just doesn't matter.

Jan 18, 2018 12:47 PM
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Pete Xavier
Investments to Luxury - Pacific Palisades, CA
Outstanding Agent Referrals-Nationwide

I had a real estate website founder and promoter say many disparaging things about me on ActiveRain after not reading my profile properly. I had to let the general Active membership know about this (did a couple postings that I left up temporary) and let them see what kind of fool this guy IS. I had to fight fire with fire...meaning public exposure. Great support from ActiveRain management in this situation!

His website isn't anything special (kind of unfocused) and will not survive for the long term, it will eventually collapse.

I love exposing these types! Sometimes the mission is a must to protect the unsuspecting public.

 

 

 

 

 

Jan 18, 2018 12:30 PM
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Michael Setunsky
Woodbridge, VA
Your Commercial Real Estate Link to Northern VA

Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041 I have to agree with number 2. Be specific and stick to the facts. Constructive criticism should be factual and should not be a criticism of the individual. I don't really agree with asking for feedback. State your issue and forget about it. Feedback will only encourage an argument and result in a flame war. The person will either accept it or not. If not don't add fuel to the fire.

Jan 18, 2018 09:52 AM
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Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA
https://HugginsHomes.com - Thousand Oaks, CA
Residential Real Estate and Investment Properties

I always find it best to take my critiques to email when possible.

Jan 18, 2018 09:05 AM
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Dave Martin (703) 585-4687
Fairfax Realty - Fairfax, VA
Making Realty Dreams a Reality #WeWillGetYouHome

On social media of any kind I try to simply be friendly and if someone behaves objectionably I just ignore it. I'm not online for conflict I LIKE people 

Jan 23, 2018 05:55 PM
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Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

I don't get involved, got real estate to do!

Jan 21, 2018 08:07 AM
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Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

I just ignore it.

Jan 19, 2018 03:47 PM
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Jennifer Mackay
Counts Real Estate Group, Inc. - Panama City, FL
Your Bay County Florida Realtor 850.774.6582

One thing I've learned through the years  - always start on the positive and avoid negative words when giving critism


Another thing I learned - if they don't ask don't offer!

Jan 19, 2018 06:40 AM
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Tony and Suzanne Marriott, Associate Brokers
Serving the Greater Phoenix and Scottsdale Metropolitan Area - Scottsdale, AZ
Haven Express @ Keller Williams Arizona Realty

No need to ever proactively "let them have it".

However - when attacked - our counter-punches leave the attacker regretting their attack!

Jan 19, 2018 05:32 AM
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Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

There are good diplomatic ways to offer a differing opinion without resorting to personal attacks or demeaning criticisms.

Jan 19, 2018 05:27 AM
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Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

I have in the past engaged in tit for tat, I finally matured past that kind of childish behavior.

Jan 18, 2018 09:58 PM