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Candice A. Donofrio
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I would say don't let the door hit your dumb ass on the way out. I can't do petty and small.

Jan 27, 2017 05:13 PM
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
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Hannah,

Wow, at this point, I think we need to think like a musical!  How about, the song from the sound of music, "hello, farewell, auf wiedersehn, goodbye!"

Damn that is so stupid!  A

Jan 27, 2017 05:10 PM
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Fred Griffin Tallahassee Real Estate
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      Sorry you feel that way, family member.  I will be here when you return to your senses.  Goodbye for now.

Jan 27, 2017 05:50 PM
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Kasey & John Boles
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So unfortunate that people can't have differing views and still respect one another as people (and family).  The question isn't silly, the ultimatum is.

Jan 27, 2017 05:24 PM
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Gloria Valvasori, Accredited Senior Agent
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Is this person in Kindergarten?  Its a very childish mindset ..  I would be a little stunned as well, but if that's what they choose to do. I would consider it their loss...

Jan 27, 2017 05:23 PM
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Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR
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Bye..Bye!!

Jan 27, 2017 05:16 PM
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Debbie Reynolds
Platinum Properties - Clarksville, TN
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That is so sad. I work with many clients and have friends and family members with opposing views. I respect how they feel and do not discuss touchy subjects. I have to caution my husband to do the same. My stepson is ultra liberal and so much so he thinks the world is coming to an end. I try not to get him worked up and we talk about other topics.

Jan 27, 2017 09:03 PM
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Carol Wilson
Your $imple Home - Toronto, ON

I would not recommend returning their disrespect with some of your own; that will damage you.  Regardless of whether you speak or remain silent, you can tell the truth to yourself:  You are blaming me for things that I have not done wrong, and I am not going to attack myself just to "make nice" with you.

If you wish to speak, you might say, "That is a valid choice.  As for me, I'll stay open-minded about the views of others."  It makes a point.  It doesn't attack.  It doesn't defend.  (Attack and defense are two sides of the same weak coin.)

Jan 27, 2017 08:37 PM
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Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
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I would let them know that I do not want to be associated with them. I have family members with oppsoing views but for us blod is thicker than politics and I would say that a relative who says that needs medicationa and therapy.

Jan 27, 2017 07:29 PM
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Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA - Bristow, VA
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I would have to ask them what they think has substantially changed from the person they have known through the years?  It's a shame they can't see the person they have shared laughs with, family events with and a lifetime of memories.  

In my opinion, they may think they are a person of the world, but there is a world of short sightedness in their views.  

Jan 27, 2017 06:32 PM
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Peter Mohylsky. Beach Expert
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Family soap opera politics.  Take the moral high road.

Jan 28, 2017 03:31 AM
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Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
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I'm stunned because I keep politics so far out of sight. I would ask the seller wants to only sell to people whole believe in your ideals, you might have just cut your pool in half.

Jan 27, 2017 09:01 PM
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Jeff Dowler, CRS
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Next! You started the conversation nicely. Too bad they are so short sighted - different views or not, you are family!

Jan 27, 2017 08:20 PM
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Teri Pacitto
Compass - Westlake Village, CA
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How pathetic and narrow minded they are and I'd let them know. How dare they disrespect your right to your opinion.  They are the loosers here.  

Jan 27, 2017 07:54 PM
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Liz and Bill Spear
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Hannah, Seeing and hearing a lot of the same.  People have put their labels on and it's all that matters to some.  A real shame that it has gotten to this point.

Jan 27, 2017 07:20 PM
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Beth Bromund
Coldwell Banker Weir Manuel - Rochester, MI
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I'm sorry you are having to deal with this.  The New York Times did an article on families that had been torn apart by the election cycle.  I don't have an answer for you, but you are not alone.

 

Jan 27, 2017 07:02 PM
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James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR
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This is the first year my wife and I agree politically.  We've been married for 49 years next month. 

Jan 28, 2017 04:29 AM
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Kat Palmiotti
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I might say, "Why do you think we can't get along if we have different opinions about something? We like different foods, different beverages (or whatever) and we've been able to get along just fine" 

If they insisted, I'd open the door for them. 

Jan 28, 2017 04:10 AM
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Roy Kelley
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Wish them well.

Jan 28, 2017 03:54 AM
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Tony and Suzanne Marriott, Associate Brokers
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Candice A. Donofrio nailed this one!

Jan 28, 2017 02:50 AM
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Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
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I would just listen. I noticed not a lot of people actually care what you think, but they are very happy to share their opinions:) 

Jan 28, 2017 12:21 AM
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Nathan Gesner
American West Realty and Management - Cody, WY
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My wife's youngest sister, a mellennial snowflake, has basically shunned us since the election because she is so distraught over politics. We don't even talk politics with her but she refuses to associate with anyone that didn't vote the same as her. I think it's a mental illness to treat people like that over something so petty.

Jan 27, 2017 09:47 PM
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Lynnea Miller
Bend Premier Real Estate - Bend, OR
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I am amazed at the way this last political season has impacted the rational thoughts of people. There is a reason I don't share my personal political thoughts on social media. If this person does not want to work with someone who is a professional and an expert on real estate, it is their loss. So sorry for you.

Jan 27, 2017 09:44 PM
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William Feela
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Well, wioth that attitude I would tell them I have plenty of other realtives to associate with...good bye!

Jan 27, 2017 08:17 PM
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Bob Crane
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Just say, "I am sorry to hear this, give me a call when you are ready to rejoin the family".

Empathy is tough to achieve in these times of polarization, and it will only get worse as we now live in a world with "Alternative Truths" where depending on which news you believe, both sides may be right.

Jan 27, 2017 05:31 PM
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Barbara Todaro
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tell them to not let the door hit them in the a$$ on their way out....

Jan 28, 2017 03:37 PM
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Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
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I just don't go there .... at all.  I just say it is not a topic for discussion.  I am very careful not to say anything that would expose my political lean. 

Jan 28, 2017 09:02 AM
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Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets
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I'll speak for me, take what you want. To The World: I don't care who you vote for, sleep with or pray to if you pray at all. Just be honest & kind and don't try to compromise my... or my family's ...health or happiness and we'll get along fine.

Ultimatums get two things from me: The answer is always NO and I typically distance myself from you, depending on the severity of the offense.

Anyone that shallow and ignorant needs to be cut out of my life, and is quite often. I have family members I never see or talk to because of their ultimatums.

 

Jan 28, 2017 06:50 AM
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Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
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" if you do not share their political views they no longer want to associate with you"

"Praise be to God! I was wondering how to make this happen!"

That should work.

Then, with every assurance possible, let them know any space shared with them will result in expression of 'Glory to God.'

Imagine the spot they have put themselves into.

Jan 28, 2017 06:07 AM
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Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
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I would refrain from politicswhen speaking and if they persist, they can use a cooling down period. You are not alone as the world is finding those who preached for tolerence, are the ones least likely to practice it.

Jan 28, 2017 05:11 AM
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Nina Hollander
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I'd wish them a nice life... what can you do about people like that? Nothing.

Jan 28, 2017 04:57 AM
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Praful Thakkar
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Hannah Williams - any which way you lose! So keep quiet and lose!

Jan 27, 2017 11:41 PM
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Endre Barath, Jr.
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Hannah I find it that if you loose a family member over politics... well let's just say good riddance....

Jan 27, 2017 10:47 PM
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Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA
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I bet I know which side they fall on!  I'd tell them "in four years from now, you'll be thanking me for taking you back because I was right.  Until then, that's one less christmas/birthday present to buy."

Jan 28, 2017 10:19 AM
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Lyn Sims
RE/MAX Suburban - Schaumburg, IL
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I have that right now & that's how it is. You have to be a bigger person & just let it go.

An 'assumed' opinion is even worse. Pretty narrow minded & that's how it is. There was a guy in our office that tried to start a fight about Hillary loosing just a few weeks ago. Just now on his FB page he reposted something about Trump being like Hiter in numbered ways.  

Now this guy is a realtor & should figure out how other people might view this & stay out of the frey.

Jan 28, 2017 05:13 AM
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Peter Testa
Nationwide Homes - Danbury, CT
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It's never OK to push your opinions on others & use the familial relationship as a bargaining chip to manipulate or punish... their politics- a reason for them to end the relationship? Try 'their toxicity'- a reason for YOU to end it. It does sound however, from what you say, like you introduced the subject of politics into the conversation. In that case you may have provoked the over reaction. Best to keep it minimal.

Jan 28, 2017 04:36 AM
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John Pusa
Berkshire Hathaway Home Services Crest - Glendale, CA
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Hannah Williams My extended relatives are conservatives with conservatives and liberal with liberals for financial benefit. Therefore, I always stay away from my relatives. Excellent blog.

Jan 27, 2017 08:47 PM
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Frank Rubi
Frank Rubi Real Estate, LLC - Metairie, LA
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Hannah, hard on some many points. Thank God, my family, even the ones who live away all felt the same. If they did not that's ok.... Hopefully, this will all pass. 

Jan 27, 2017 08:03 PM
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Michael J. Perry
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Tell them that nothing is more important to you than your relationship w/ them ,they're family ! Stand your ground BUT tell them -hey don't give up on me , you might convince me yet !

Jan 27, 2017 05:33 PM
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Joan Cox
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I would be stunned too, as family is family.   Conversation can happen without politics.

Jan 31, 2017 12:56 PM
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Noah Seidenberg
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I would be shocked too Hannah. I never mix business with opinions.

Jan 29, 2017 07:13 PM
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Debbie Laity
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I actually had a close friend tell me this years ago. We are no longer friends and I'm not sure why politics had to come between us. It's a shame.

Jan 29, 2017 05:13 PM
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Sandy Padula and Norm Padula, JD, GRI
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As Candice A. Donofrio wrote. These folks need to move forward and become productive members of society.

Jan 29, 2017 06:54 AM
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Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
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A friend you could 'un friend'' but not sure you can do that with a family member. Can you un-family someone?

Jan 28, 2017 08:59 PM
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Diana White-Pettis
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I'd say that's your choice and I hope one day you will come to your senses. I'll be here if you ever need me.

Jan 28, 2017 07:49 PM
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Hannan for pete's sake - that's ridiculous but I know it happens. It has happened in my family and with a few friends.  And hey - if they want to go to extremes that's their choice.  Why they do it - I have no idea as it's crazy to me.

Jan 28, 2017 05:06 PM
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Olga Simoncelli
Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate - New Fairfield, CT
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We live in a period of strong political views and differences.

Jan 28, 2017 02:04 PM
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Les & Sarah Oswald
Realty One Group - Eastvale, CA
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To keep the peace, don't discuss politics. Give them a little cooling off period and eventually, they will come around. We all have different views and to expect everyone to see their point of view is just dangerous. We are not robots, we have a mind and opinion. I shy away from negativity, so if they are constantly negative...time to move on to other family members.

Jan 28, 2017 01:20 PM
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Michael Jacobs
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I'm sorry this is happening to you, Hannah -- there remains certain topics that are not discussed even in some family situations.  I hope this passes soon.   

Jan 28, 2017 12:27 PM
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Allie Angeloni
Long Realty - Oro Valley, AZ

Wow . . .  that is harsh (to me) Hannah Williams.  I would say, "I'm sure gonna miss ya!"  HA!!  Seriously, I would not fall into this trap, and with their emotions running high, would not even discuss politics, becaue it's obvious they cannot, but change the topic.  I could see this in Roger's family, being Italian.  I would not be part of that discussion, since I still have to live with (even from another state away!) these people.  I'm not looking to alienate them, and that's whether I like them or tolerate them!  

Jan 28, 2017 10:27 AM
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Will Hamm
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I have that problem in my family also.  I just do not discuss it with them.

 

Jan 28, 2017 08:01 AM
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Jennifer Mackay
Counts Real Estate Group, Inc. - Panama City, FL
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A family member? Wow, no comment on your family!

Jan 28, 2017 07:51 AM
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Harry F. D'Elia III
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Oh well move on not changing my views and values

Jan 28, 2017 07:12 AM
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Jeff Pearl
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I wouldn't care. I don't initiate or participate in political discussions.

Jan 28, 2017 06:59 AM
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Michael Setunsky
Woodbridge, VA
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Hannah Williams I am rather stunned too. It was probably nice knowing them.

Jan 28, 2017 06:30 AM
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Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
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Fred Griffin and Candice Donofrio have it summed up well!

Jan 28, 2017 06:28 AM
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Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
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I would politely no longer work with them if that's their decision.

Jan 28, 2017 06:22 AM
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Richie Alan Naggar
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The unknown issues that lay hidden within a person when stirred by different dynamics surface via the different  channels, ideas, so-called beliefs and circumstances. For the enlightened, that opportunity is a chance to be rid of them.  For the unsuspecting, they are pawns held captive and manipulated. In your situation, politics has nothing to do with it. Much deeper issue driving that bus. Q & A might solve it if both willing. Start with why, how, when where and what to probe it out. Its not politics!

Jan 28, 2017 05:54 AM
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Silvia Dukes PA, Broker Associate, CRS, CIPS, SRES
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See you at the next reunion!  :-)

Jan 28, 2017 05:28 AM
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Raymond E. Camp
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Someday they will become very lonely!

Jan 28, 2017 05:07 AM
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Gita Bantwal
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I too am stunned. 

Jan 28, 2017 04:59 AM