Lise Howe, Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC (Keller Williams Capital Properties)

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Susan Emo
Sotheby's International Realty Canada - Brokerage - Kingston, ON
Kingston and the 1000 Islands Area

 I can have a minute pity party but usually I see the bigger picture and open myself up to better opportunities coming my way. Life is too short for anything else.

Jun 08, 2016 12:56 PM
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Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
Platinum Properties- (931)771-9070 - Clarksville, TN
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After 36 years in the business I know that things usually work out for the best so I don't beat myself up. I do have regrets for a few minutes or hours or maybe a day but then get back to work.

Jun 08, 2016 12:55 PM
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
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Lise,

Beating yourself up yields more misery...move on Zen mode is our style.  A

Jun 08, 2016 02:03 PM
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Noah Seidenberg
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Chicagoland and Suburbs (800) 858-7917

I used to but now I do not take it personally.

Jun 08, 2016 01:02 PM
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Kristen Correa, Broker
Kristen Correa Real Estate & Reedy Creek Realty Services - Keller, TX
I love coffee & real estate. I am out of coffee!

Depends. Sometimes I get a strong vibe of wishicouldahadas and sometimes I overwhelmingly feel they are not my type at all - good riddance. I have definitely experiened both strongly.

Jun 08, 2016 12:50 PM
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Jennifer Mackay
Counts Real Estate Group, Inc. - Panama City, FL
Your Bay County Florida Realtor 850.774.6582

I'm fairly even keeled and just move on - on the outside that is ;)

Jun 08, 2016 09:58 PM
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Bob Crane
Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, Keller Williams Fox Cities - Stevens Point, WI
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I would like to say that I always do the zen thing, but then that may not be the truth, so I wont.

Jun 08, 2016 05:19 PM
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Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
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Yes, I give myself a day or so to come down, take a long nap or destruct myself somehow to clean my mind and the next day( hopefully) I move on, to find another home, or another buyer, or fix the issue in any possible way. 

Jun 08, 2016 05:03 PM
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Sam Shueh
(408) 425-1601 - San Jose, CA
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Nature has a way solve its own problem.  A skilled agent will often not interject and wait for problems to resolve over time.  But the agent should try to come with an effective way save the deal. Compromise, compromise.

Jun 08, 2016 03:47 PM
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Sharon Altier, SFR
Lawton Realty Group, Inc. - Elmhurst, IL
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I always go into it that if the property is meant to be theirs, it will be.  If not, move on...

 

 

Jun 08, 2016 03:25 PM
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Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
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Honestly it depends.  Why did it fall apart, how much did I have invested, is it what my clients want to happen or the other side of the transaction? I tend to blow up if my clients are getting the shaft, but if my clients decide to walk for what they consider a valid reason I take a breath, have a cocktail that evening and move forward.

Jun 08, 2016 02:16 PM
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William Feela
WHISPERING PINES REALTY - North Branch, MN
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Zen is the last thing that happens

Jun 08, 2016 01:28 PM
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Patricia Kennedy
RLAH Real Estate - Washington, DC
Home in the Capital

There have been a few where I really felt crappy.  But Zen is certainly the ideal.

Jun 08, 2016 01:14 PM
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Mary Yonkers
Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate - Erie, PA
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Not a Zen person, but do feel disappointed.  Regroup, refocus.  Most disappointed if I did not get the listing; buyers usually buy something else

Jun 08, 2016 12:56 PM
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Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Property Manager

After I've done all I can, it's Que sera sera.

Jun 08, 2016 10:47 PM
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Marco Giancola
Beachfront Realty - Miami Beach, FL
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You have to accept the fact that everything in life does not always work out in your favor. Zen baby Zen.

Jun 08, 2016 10:35 PM
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Richard Weeks
Dallas, TX
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I only worry about things I can control.

Jun 08, 2016 10:09 PM
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Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Stuff happens.  I allow myself a moment or two(okay, sometimes more) then I move on.   

Jun 08, 2016 09:08 PM
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Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Fortunately, things do work out most of the time.

Jun 08, 2016 09:05 PM
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Kathleen Luiten
Resort and Second-Home Specialist - Princeville, HI
Kauai Luxury Ocean Home Sales

I'm Zen.

Jun 08, 2016 05:56 PM
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Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate

I just move on ... stress is a killer. Zen baby ... Zen. 

I will often meditate. 

Jun 10, 2016 01:30 AM
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Praful Thakkar
LAER Realty Partners - Andover, MA
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Lise Howe one thing I believe in - if things did not go as planned, something better is destined....

Jun 09, 2016 04:27 PM
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Amanda Christiansen
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I get back to work.  If I had any feelings, they would be hurt.  

Jun 09, 2016 11:53 AM
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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co. Notary Services, retired Realtor

I'd say I'm somewhere in between Lise Howe . I review to see if I could have done anything that would have resulted in a more positive outcome and if the answer is no then I'm good, if I did something stupid to kill the deal I'll beat myself up... a little.

Jun 09, 2016 11:46 AM
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Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

It depends on what happen

Jun 09, 2016 08:11 AM
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Ryan Huggins - Thousand Oaks, CA
https://HugginsHomes.com - Thousand Oaks, CA
Residential Real Estate and Investment Properties

After the world's smallest violin finishes playing the world's saddest song... nah, just kidding.  Deals falling out is a part of the game and I do my darndest to not get attached to the outcome.

Jun 09, 2016 07:19 AM
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Alan May
Jameson Sotheby's International Realty - Evanston, IL
A moving experience!

I beat myself up for a few days (whether deserved, or not), and then try to move on.

Jun 09, 2016 06:16 AM
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Olga Simoncelli
Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate - New Fairfield, CT
CONSULTANT, Real Estate Services & Risk Management

First the latter, briefly, on an emotional level, then the former once reason returns.

Jun 09, 2016 05:15 AM
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Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

if a deal does not work, I'm on to the next deal .....I put no more thought into business that was an empty bag...

Jun 09, 2016 04:58 AM
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Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

I've learned to let it go and go on to the next one.

Jun 09, 2016 04:41 AM
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Sandy Padula and Norm Padula, JD, GRI
HomeSmart Realty West & Lend Smart Mortgage, Llc. - Carlsbad, CA
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I do, but only after all effort is expended on behalf of my clients and their wishes

Jun 09, 2016 02:42 AM
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Nina Hollander
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor

I go Zen...it is what it is and so long as I didn't contribute to the problem, I'm not beating myself up.

Jun 09, 2016 02:17 AM
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Susan Laxson CRS
Palm Properties - La Quinta, CA
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After 30 years in the business, I move on and realize that things will happen and not take it personally.

Jun 09, 2016 12:02 AM
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Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets
Big Block Realty 858.232.8722 - La Jolla, CA
& Host of Postcards From Success Podcast

If by Zen you me a couple Martini's, then YES I go Zen. 

I used to beat myself up when I was new and "needed the money", but I'm well trained & experienced and I work hard and relationally these days; the only time I'm down on myself today,  is when I was at fault: for falling short of my capabilities. But, when I give 100% effort and an honest mistake happens or a failed deal...moving on with no self imposed berating.

This industry will eat you alive from the inside out if you do not learn to fall, get up, brush off and move forward.

Jun 08, 2016 11:56 PM
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Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

My Motto is "NEXT!" no time for extended pity parties. Always ask myself 2 questions: Did I did my best to make it work? Was there anything I could have done better to save it? Learn from it and move on!

Jun 08, 2016 11:39 PM
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Shawn and Angela Miller
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Amabassador Real Estate - Lincoln, NE
Lincoln and Omaha, NE REALTORS®

If it was meant to be, it would be.  Move along to the next thing.

Jun 08, 2016 11:37 PM
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Michael Setunsky
Woodbridge, VA
Your Commercial Real Estate Link to Northern VA

Lise Howe Issues usually have a way of working out. No sense in beating yourself up.

Jun 08, 2016 11:29 PM
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Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Whats your is yours as long as you don't bungle it or turn it away. That's why it is important to know oneself. If something goes wrong, the problem lies elsewhere

Jun 08, 2016 11:24 PM
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Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
ReMax Realtec Group - Palm Harbor, FL
Making FLORIDA Real Estate EZ

Zen? I don't think so.

Someone's gonna PAY!

The next person that blips on my radar...I'm gonna bite their head off!

Ahh, and there's that inspector guy.......PERFECT!
Then I recall that I have been forgiven the transgression of many things, that there is no 'right' to not be kind to others, that the lesson of life is love, forgive myself, then life goes on.

 

Jun 08, 2016 11:19 PM
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Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of the Manchester NH's area Leading Agents

It depends, usually how mad i get is how it blew up. Some times i do vent but i move on quickly or we would not survive this business. 

Jun 08, 2016 11:01 PM
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Tony and Suzanne Marriott, Associate Brokers
Serving the Greater Phoenix and Scottsdale Metropolitan Area - Scottsdale, AZ
Haven Express @ Keller Williams Arizona Realty

Rarely - if ever - will a deal in progress not work out.  It does require significant effort some times!

Jun 08, 2016 10:52 PM
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Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Count to ten and start again! Life is not a series of continuous victories!

Jun 08, 2016 10:51 PM
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Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

I will be upset for a day and then move on.

Jun 08, 2016 10:41 PM