Paul S.  Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS, South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker! (Fathom Realty Washington LLC)

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Sandy Padula and Norm Padula, JD, GRI
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Another indicator of the general disintegration of society. Take the high road! Lead by your example and others may get the hint without a confrontation.

Sep 21, 2015 08:19 AM
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
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Paul,

I can't say that we run into people like that very often.  Our clients are very savvy and nice.  If I did, I would like Cindy Davis change the subject and move on.  A

Sep 21, 2015 08:30 AM
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Susan Emo
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I'm constantly shocked by what passes for normal, acceptable, every day conversation.  I'm not too sure when our standards were lowered.  I'm fortunate in that my clients think more of themselves and of me, to use such language.

Sep 21, 2015 09:11 AM
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Cindy Davis
SD Home Source Realty - San Diego, CA

Given what I see on the news every day, nothing really surprises me any more. I try to relate to people as people and for the most part, leave everything else aside. I'm not perfect at it, but I will change the subject if I don't like the curent one!

Sep 21, 2015 06:44 AM
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 Good Tuesday morning Paul. What is accepted speech on the silver screen greatly influences the masses. Get rid of all of the vulgar language that flows out of Hollywood, perhaps folks will clean up their own act.

Sep 21, 2015 06:39 PM
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Marco Giancola
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It bothers me now and always did so I can't blame it on age or is it ageism?

Sep 21, 2015 11:55 AM
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Patricia Kennedy
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Paul, I'm not always PC so I really don't expect it from my clients.  OK, I do try to be PC around clients.  

OK.  I just reread the question - like the small print.  I've never had a client do racial slurs or use sailor talk.  When I think about getting overly PC, it's usually about people who are unglued about the Redskins changing their name.  And this isn't a conversation that I would initiate while making small talk in a showing situation.

Sep 21, 2015 11:44 AM
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Sara Wagner
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Some of them.

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Bob Crane
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I wish my friends would learn some compassion.

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Nina Hollander
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
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I don't like hearing it, Paul, but I don't hear it very often either. I don't know if it's my clients or that they simply watch themselves around me.

Sep 21, 2015 09:58 PM
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Wayne and Jean Marie Zuhl
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I'm bothered by it, but not enough to give up the contract :)

Sep 21, 2015 08:34 PM
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Inna Ivchenko
Barcode Properties - Encino, CA
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I do not engage in discussions abut politics. I try to change the subject.

Sep 21, 2015 04:55 PM
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Tammy Lankford,
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Actually not so much.  Once in a while, but mostly our clients are polite and we don't talk world issues or polictics, we talk real estate.

Sep 21, 2015 03:04 PM
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Sharon Altier, SFR
Lawton Realty Group, Inc. - Elmhurst, IL
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Always has bothered me.  I will cringe when I hear it..they get the point and will usually curb any foul language.  If it is racial, I might cringe and add, "you really didn't say that, did you; seriously?  Did you realize you said that out loud?"  Again, they get the point. 

Set the standard of what you will tolerate and they will follow. 

Sep 21, 2015 02:09 PM
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Sybil Campbell
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In a word, Yes!

Sep 21, 2015 02:03 PM
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Larry Johnston
Broker, Friends & Neighbors Real Estate and Elkhart County Subdivisions, LLC - Elkhart, IN
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I agree, clients that use unappropriate language freely, bothers me, but I won't say anything unless children are around.  It use to be women and children, but now some of the women are the sailors.

Sep 21, 2015 12:44 PM
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Mike Rock
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i suspect it depends on your POV. therefore it is better to go neutral unless you know your speaking to the choir

Sep 21, 2015 12:40 PM
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Debbie Reynolds
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I try to tune it out. Most of the time they are respectful and don't overly use slang and expletives. I haven't noticed much slang when it comes to referring to ethic groups or minorities.

Sep 21, 2015 11:50 AM
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Evelyn Johnston
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Yes it does bother me too, we have to be so carefull with our words and actions that it sometimes makes it difficult to be around people who are so careless.

Sep 21, 2015 11:02 AM
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James Dray
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No sir tell me like it is....right between the eyes..... however expect me to do the same with you...

Sep 21, 2015 10:43 AM
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Richie Alan Naggar
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It does mark the person speaking that way in a way worse than what they are speaking of...

Sep 21, 2015 09:09 AM
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Annette Lawrence , Palm Harbor, FL 727-420-4041
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I have found if I keep the level of conversation at a high level, they respond as best they are able.

At some point, in the face of blatant (not oblivious) disrespect and honor of other peoples I will need to address the issue.

If you stay in the pig pen you will get stink on you. So don't be to slow to move the direction of the dialog.

Sep 21, 2015 07:15 AM
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Donna Foerster
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Yes. My clients and my friends!

Aug 21, 2016 03:28 AM
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Amelia Robinette
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I don't mind sailor/trucker talk and have been known to throw the F bomb around myself - not with clients, it's simply not professional, but I don't care if that's how they choose to communicate. Some of the smartest people I know have the worst potty mouths. A hilarious former congressman, an appointee at HHS, a prestigious surgeon (who's wife was even worse!), come to mind.

Being in the Wash DC area political talk is part of everyday life here, so it's unavoidable. Most people are very respectful about political differences. Given the extreme diversity of the area, if they are racist/sexist/homophobic, they generally know better than to speak about it in business conversation. 

Sep 22, 2015 04:13 AM
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Michael Setunsky
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Paul S. Henderson, Realtor, Tacoma Washington It bothers me too!

Sep 21, 2015 11:47 PM
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Barbara Todaro
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as long as it's not anyone on my team who conducts him/herself in that fashion, it doesn't matter to me what others do...we can't control that....

 

Sep 21, 2015 10:41 PM
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Olga Simoncelli
Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate - New Fairfield, CT
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Yes, I do sometimes and it's a challenging situation in terms of how we react to it. Years ago, as agents-in-training (so to speak), we were told to be mindful as to how we respond to politically incorrect comments as Federal agents might be doing stealth "spot checks" for potentially discriminatory comments or attitudes. 

Sep 21, 2015 10:18 PM
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Renee Paray
Coldwell Banker Preferred - Blue Bell, PA
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Yes. I can handle sailor talk but when I begin to hear slang or disparaging talk, I immediately tell them that I do not condone that kind of talk and I will not be around someone who does. 

Sep 21, 2015 10:12 PM
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John McCormack, CRS
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I really don't have that problem.  I think people follow the lead of who they are around and I keep it clean and straight.

Sep 21, 2015 10:10 PM
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John Pusa
Berkshire Hathaway Home Services Crest - Glendale, CA
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Paul, I try to avoid unethical people with different opinions criticizing others.

Sep 21, 2015 09:05 AM